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As you know trauma reshapes the brain and the body and makes it hard for us to interpret what is ‘safe’ and what is a ‘threat’. Most people experience latent patterns of  shut down, stress, or triggers from their past that occupy our minds for days. We might find we have an inability to intuit if a relationship is healthy or not. Our emotions become muffled and confusing. Embodiment teaches nervous system maturity in the same way yoga, meditation, exercise, and somatic therapy does. However in my experience not only is embodiment quicker, it also adds in a feeling of aliveness, sensuality, receptivity and a general enthusiasm for life and connection that I haven’t experienced in any other alternative healing method. I have had several clients tell me that their experience with my coaching is that it is like many years of therapy sessions in a short, but intense window. That is my personal experience with working with my own embodiment coach as well. I felt like the lights were turned on and I had suddenly found the drivers seat to my life. Typically my 1-1 clients see a traditional therapist in addition to embodiment or they have a basis of self-work from which to pull from in each session. However, understanding your issues is often very different from changing your issues. There is so much coming out online about embodiment and somatic therapy. Check out the Embody Lab, where I am listed on the practitioner directory or this article is a great place to start https://www.nationalgeographic.com/science/article/what-is-somatic-therapy

Couples: While I use a somatic process in couples sessions that is similar to 1-1 the session is fully mapped out and a strong container is held so that both people feel like their emotions are present. 

1-1: First we simply talk and ‘find’ where you are at a “10” in your everyday life. Did you feel a tightening in your chest while you were standing at the kitchen sink? Did you have a HUGE reaction to your new boyfriend / girlfriend that you can’t comprehend? Did you find yourself completely frozen and avoiding a task that is critical to moving forward in your career or personal life? We also look at these trigger points in relation to your personal goals and values.

 
Next, we close our eyes and do a practice similar to a meditation. We feel into what is going on DEEP inside of your body. We listen. I hold space. You find safety and release. It’s pretty awesome. At the end of each session we make a plan. It isn’t a plan that’s based on what is ‘right’. It isn’t a plan based on anyone’s opinion. It’s action that comes from a deep safety and wisdom you have always possessed. As you take actions based on information from your own body you build self awareness and self trust. Self trust leads to self love.

Yes and no. I find with my long term clients we do a mixture of traditional coaching and embodiment sessions. We also engage in specific practices around energy, sexuality, grief, anger, and intuition. We are never forgetting the body though. We are always considering the wisdom of our emotional responses and learning to respect and wade through the freeze. We are learning to listen to our ‘winters’ (an important concept in my recorded curriculum). We are turning on life and tuning into the frequency of right now in every session regardless of whether we conduct a traditional embodiment session or not.

I am not a therapist. I work with the current side effects of trauma and conditioning but I don't take clients back into past experiences repeatedly to 'heal the past'. Your doctor is the only person that can make recommendations on medications or your current treatment plan. I have never seen a client that had not tried traditional therapy before, typically for decades. Around 60% of my clients do embodiment coaching along side of traditional therapy.  The most important distinction to make between therapy and coaching is the coaching is focused on changes and goals right now. While therapy is often centered on mental understanding, acceptance and consciousness. If you have found yourself wanting more feedback and more change oriented support coaching is going to be a great experience for you. If you are in a super tender place where you are looking for someone to listen to your story then therapy might be your best fit for now. We are moving beyond story into the body in order to create real life changes in all embodiment sessions which can be challenging, but if you are ready for that in a very healing way. 

Many of my clients are religious and some are deeply traditionally religious even though I am not. I do think clients need to have an open mind to energetics, intuition and to the fact that I might not always use the words that support their exact belief system. However I have been told that my embodiment coaching supports the faith of my clients many times and I feel really good about that. I aim to push people back into more of who they already are and into a deeper alignment with their own values. What is right for me and the people in my life isn't going to be the exact same for anyone else. 

I write curriculums for women who have romantic relationships with men and for men that partner with women, because that is my personal experience and knowledge base. That said I love, support and have family that identify as LGBTQ+ and if my work speaks to you and you can look past the language I use then by all means book a call and lets see how it feels! At minimum I can connect you with other certified embodiment coaches that identify in a way that is a better fit for your issues or experiences.